Being judged

There are times when we feel like our friends don't get us. That they judge us for how we feel. That we can't speak to them in confidence without feeling guilty. We fear they think we're being unreasonable. And in turn, we start to believe that we ARE being unreasonable, so we force our emotions into a bottle.

My question is... Who are we to judge other people's feelings?

If there's something going on with someone we love, and it's really hurting them, isn't that enough for us to be supportive and caring, no matter how big or small the problem is? Because frankly, being judgmental will in no way help them get over their issue; it only adds to it. 

When somebody talks about something that's going on their lives, we tend to compare it to our own problems. We then make a mental conclusion that their problems are complete and utter rubbish, so we try and shut them out.

Well hey, newsflash. The person is hurting, aren't they? Their issue is affecting them. So 9 times out of 10, it's not rubbish. What this person needs is someone to be understanding and tolerant; to not complain about them behind their backs. Some may not admit it, but as humans, this is all we want from people. The least we can do is try to understand. It could be difficult for the person to talk about it.

So next time we complain about how ridiculous we think our friend feels about something going on their lives, we need to put ourselves in their shoes for a moment. How would we feel if somebody thought that about us? We'd feel insulted, plus we'd experience more hurt.

Something to think about.